A lot of Spiritual People (including Priests, Monks, Leaders, Masters/etc) keep emphasizing this to me: “when you reach a certain level of learning on your religion (or so-called Cultivation), you will find yourself enclosed-up against all un-necessary feelings or saying-of-you or soon, you become Alone”.
At first, I don’t really take that seriously and important, ‘cos I’m always a person who will go against certain planning or so-called rules/regulations to seek for a “new beam of light”, but to this, I totally surrendered.
I must admit that the saying they told me is true and perfectly true.
This morning, while taking a slow stroll in the cold drizzling, one question pop-up in my mind, “What is a relationship?”
I couldn’t answer and I couldn’t find a suitable word/phrase to satisfy myself for this question.
The immediate reaction that reacts in my mind, after the question appeared and searching for answer, is NULL. NULL not as in nothings, but in a form of NULL that I know and yet in a form that I can’t get hold of or used words to describe.
Or this is what the Spiritual People told me – Alone.
Alone, after many rounds of digging out the meaning of this word and retrieving back all what I had learned in the past and all the sayings I got, FINALLY, I found out that actually the word Alone could mean a lot…
(All the following thoughts only appeared after I agreed to let go of the word “Relationship (in certain contexts)” in Chinese - Qing)
A lot of people might think that Alone is a form of physical action that a person will closed-up him/herself from all the physical contacts/interactions of other mortals, but actually such action is not accurate or I can say it shall be vice-versa – getting oneself to get more physical contacts/interactions with other mortals and felt how they felt, their immediate reactions or emotions, etc.
Alone, in here, is not a physical action but a form of mind-disciple/soul-disciple/physical-action-disciple of oneself actions against certain issues or events (may it be major or minor, may it be life or death).
Example, like making oneself to think properly before react or after reacting to a certain issue, oneself will have to bear the consequences, etc (in Buddhism called Karma, in Taoism called Cheng – Continue or take-over and Fu – carried forward or passing-down).
Even though, we have to put down or sacrifice our certain Relationships, but in Taoism, Three Relationships that one shall not give-up or sacrifice, they are:
1 – Parent’s Relationship
2 – Master & Disciple Relationship
3 – Loyalty to a Kingdom/Empire/Country Relationship
Once a person give-up the above 3 mentioned Relationships, he/she will not be eligible to call him/herself a Taoist, ‘cos in Taoism, giving up the relationships of the any above is consider as Deeply Sinful.
Back to my issue, so am I a NO Relationship or so-called Cold-blooded person now?
If you think that I’m one, I cant really denied, but if you don’t think that way, you may think then who am I?
This is easy, in-order to see things in a more optimistic way/having a clearer view, you have to try to put down the un-necessary relationships, only by putting them down, your burden will be lessen and the pathway that you taking to reach the peak will be much more easier and lighter.
Don’t you feel that way too?
Let’s ponder on the whole question again, do you find something out from that?
If yes, you gain something.
If no, no worry, in time to come, you gain more things then we do.
'fusheng'