sorry if this topic has been started before.
well i decided that we are teens alot happens and sometimes we dont have anyone to talk to because there either busy or you don't feel comfortable sharing how you feel or whats going on in your life, so i think it's good that we share some of our feelings and talk about whats going on.

well with me, me and my friend had a fight at the end of last year and i thought we were ok since we were talking over msn and all that but when school started she has been snobbing me of and insulting me and my other friend jade, i don't why she is doing this but i feel so sad :bearcry:. i haven't told anybody till now.

oh Kata, sorry to hear that. It's very hard when you're in fight with your friends. :(
Last year, my best friend, whom I know for almost 10 years, stopped hanging out with me, calling me to go out together or just talk. She started hanging out with some other girls. and it hurted a lot cuz I so loved her and didn't know why she was doing this.
I decided to talk to her. I had prepared a speach where I would shout at her and tell her she was immature. But I almost cried when I tried to talk to her. I could hardly keep my tears. And I felt like it was my fault. sometimes I think I'm too weak.
But she admitted she was wrong. we went out together a couple of times but things weren't like before. I talked to her again. And I found out that it was my fault too just a little of what had happened because I used to live in another town for 4 years and when I came back to my city, I was ALWAYS with my friend (some people thought we were sisters lol) but she told me that I was always complaining about my new classmates and I was talking always about my previous town and that I had a better time there.
Well, she should have told me that. Sometimes, you don't understand what you're doing. True friends must ALWAYS tell you what they think even if the truth is painful.

So, Kata, try to talk to your friend, a deep conversation. try to find the reasons why you both are like this right now. Tell her how you feel. This will help a lot.
But even if it doesn't, always have on your mind that out there in the world there are quite many people who can be good friends with you. Just be patient and have faith!

I think this is great topic cus everybody has some problems and they could feel much better after sharing it with others.
About your friend... maybe you sholud talk to her and clear the air. I don't know what the fight was about so I recomend talking to her. You sholudn't let her insult you without any reason at all. ;)
...and if she countinue being b***h, threat her in the same way! :)

I agree with what the girls said :yes:
U should talk to her :)
well it happened once with me where a girl told my friend things that i said to her(the girl) so she went to tell her but she converted the whole thing and told MF that i said bad things about her (confusing i know :wacko: ) and then i talked with her to know the reason why she is not talking with me and i found out , and we solved the thing , and now we are talking normally :)

so yeah u should talk to her :yes:

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awesome thread!!!

and you can already say that Zoe is our Therapist...

as for me...well I can't give any advice i'm the one who needs advices!!

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It's true... try to talk to her and sort things out. What's wrong, what's going on etc.. it might only a slight misunderstanding. :) I agreed with Leila... Zoe is our therapist. :D

great thread :yes:

Kata i tink dat u shud (soz..dont know y i went all jamaican :) )..i think that u shud talk to her and try to understand y she's being the way she is...then mayb u cud sort the prob out...best of luck :hug:

i had a problem with a friend too...she was a really gud freind but then after a while me and sort of drifted apart...i ws the one always calling her and talking to her but she cud never b botherd with me...so i was lyk 'wtf?? i'm not gonna run after u all the time.'

but then after a while i talked to her and she was still the same...so i was lyk 'WOTEVA!!' and now she's moved to england and we dont talk anymore..she doesnt even talk to her friend whos been friends with her for 4 yrs...so she was a b***h <_<

lol Girls (Lilas & Letizia), what are you talking about? :shy: :blushh:
Well yeah, I do like helping others when I can. :P Or just talk to them. Actually, I think I do that because I want to find a person who will do that for me too. Yeah that happens sometimes. People do/ behave in the way that they want to be treated by others. They give what they expect to get

aww thanks girls, it really means alot that u all care so much :hug: well i'll try talking to her tomorrow and see were we go from there.

and if anyone needs to talk about something there going through i'll be more than happy to help :hug:

Errr...sorry Ican't talk but i can listen...(well read as you're too shy to talk...) does it count?

Tell us how it'll end Kata don't forget!!

*beeing stupid*

err and what if we're not teens anymore???ok I'll keep my problems to myself i'm an adult a granny now i can go through anything... :P
can I??? :rolleyes:

yer ofcourse i will lilas,
even if ur not a teen everyone has a problem its a part of life unfortanully, sometimes i wish i will wake up one morning and life would be perfect, but my mum said that nothing is as perfect as what we want it to be.

ok i have a problem

its got to do with my family....when my dad goes abroad on office work i dont miss him...my sister rabia...she lives in england...she came to stay with us for a month and then she left....i dont miss her....my other sister marina is in a med uni in a different city...she came for 3 months (hols)...she went back..i dont miss her

i dont miss my own family....is there like something emotionally wrong with me or what coz i really dont get it

lol :lol: I don't know maybe you just don't realize you miss them...when they're on phone or something do you want to cry or you don't feel anything?

I'm not with my family everyday...and I kinda don't miss them too actually I just miss my room(and my so comfortable bed!) and I don't see some friends for ages and I don't miss them too ...well I guess you're normal or we're both not normal!lol

LOL...no there is definetly something wrong with me....i dont even like talking on the phone with them...i just cant be bothered...and when someone tells me that dad is coming back i'm not exactly over the moon...i mean, dont get me wrong, i love him but i'm just not that close with him...and i've been moving around since i was a baby and the friends i leave behind in different countries, i miss them more then i miss my own family...something is definetly wrong with me

note: who wouldnt miss their bed? lol

Lol I can totally understand you!!!don't worry i feel that too sometimes...(having my mom on phone is like graduating from highschool everyday...horrible!!
I have nothing to tell her but she wants me to call her everyday what i do but arghhhhh i don't care about what she had for lunch!!)
hmm sorry we were talking about you...well I don't know I feel that about dad too sometimes i just don't want to see him(I love him of course!) but I don't know...
it must be the girly version of the Oedipus complex something is maybe wrong with us and we're making it like 16years later than the normal people!

*Freud get out of my body!* :angry:

yea i totally know what u mean..lol

ok another problem...what if u found out something about someone but you couldnt tell anyone because if you did then lives of many people will be broken and life wont be the same anymore...and the thing you found out about that person literally gave a heart attack but you just cant tell anyone...how do you cope with it?

err....for this one you'll have to wait for our therapist to be back!!!lol

Zoe someone needs your help!!!

ah, woah...I wouldn' know what to do :o

this is a great thread btw. :muitobem: :D

I sorta have the same problem as Zoe. I have this one friend, that i've known for like 6 years. We were the besttttt of friends. Until she met her two new best friends. Now we hardly hang out or talk to each other. I mean, we're still nice to each other, but it's not the same. Sometimes i feel like crying, but then i feel stupid, because it's only a friendship. But, I really thought she was going to be my friend that 10 years from now i can go back to and talk our childhood. But what if she doesn't even remember me?! Because i feel like she only considers her two "best friend" her only best friends now. She still says she wants to be my best friend, but i know it's not the sameee. And her new friends have totally changed her. She wasn't like this, and i hate it. Idk, if im just being selfish.
And sometimes i feel like telling her this, but every time i think about this i get so sad, and i get the feeling of crying.
But i don't want to cry. ughh.
being a teen is hard. :bearcry:

yeah i know what you mean Kim

but sitting around and doing nothing isnt going to solve the problem...you should go and talk to your friend then you will find out if the friendship is worth all the trouble or not....if she's the same old friend you once knew then you know its cool but if she's changed way too much then its up to you to make up your mind....hope that makes sense

Kim I went through pretty much the same thing when I was in high school. But when you have a distance even for once nothing would be the same anymore. I know it's hard for you right now,but best thing to do is moving on. Believe me you'll have better friends.Just try to stay calm and strong.

thanks guys :latente: :hug:
yeah, i decided i'll tell her. I feel better once i tell her.
thanks again girls<3

@Zar: Well, what happens to me is that I miss my family when I'm away from them. When I go, for example, to my village in summer, I always miss them mainly because I'm bored and don't have anything else to do and I call them every day. Awe, how much I love them when they're away! :wub: lol
But when I go somewhere with friends for holidays, I don't miss them because I have things to do and keep my mind busy.
And now thanks to you, I've realized that when I have things to do and have a great time, I think just of the present and nothing else. But when I'm alone, bored, I do miss them. dunno why...

About you, with whom did you grow up? Because if you didn't use to see your family much, then it's understandable that you don't miss them. Especially with your dad that he works in another country and you must see him rarely. He must be like a stranger to you. It's not easy growing up away from your family.

And about the other problem. Well I'm not sure. Better don't reveal anything if this secret breaks others' heart. And if it's really sth so serious and shocking and you feel the need to share it with somebody else, then I suggest you find a person you trust (and this person should better not know the people that this secret is about) and tell this person about the problem. So you'll feel relieved that you've talked about it and at the same time you'll know that the secret is safe. So make sure that the person you'll choose will be trustworthy.


@Kim: My 2nd best friend goes to a private school where students are so stuck up! She's changed a bit. She cares so much about her appearance and wants to be cool etc. I don't see her much cuz we live in other part of the city. For 4-5 months I hadn't heard anything from her so I decided that I am the one who will keep this friendship alive. I call her once a week and talk to her. She still trusts me and tells me about her life. If I wanna go out with her, I have to tell her days before because so many people want to go out with her. pff And although she's one of my besties, I'm afraid that if someone asks her who are her best friends, she won't mention me. I do know I'm her friend and this friendship won't end. Because I love her, I care about her and I'm sure that she'll realize one day that I'm one of the few (if not the only one) that really cared about her and wanted the best for her and never took advantage of her.

If you really love your friend, you'll do your best to keep the friendship alive. You'll make your friend understand how good friend you are and that you truly love her. Just have faith. And know that even if she never sees clearly, you'll still help her and love her and hope the best for her. And never get disappointed because everything happens for a reason and what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger! ;)

Well i have a really huge problem in my life :gloomy: a little to personal to tell but what do u do when u feel like everything is just ment to fail and your gonna be unhappy and always feel like ur going to cry :bearcry:
i wish i knew.

Indeed.
Also high school is crazy. Don't have word for it. I never believed that in the movies but it's true... People totally change themselfs... We all become complexed. :unsure:

You should just change the way you think. Believe in yourself and that everything's gonna be alright (if you try of course). Be optimistic, see he glass half-full and not half-empty. Hope for better days to come. Think that what you're experience right now is just a phase that will pass in a matter of time. This situation you're into will make you stronger and ready to fight more difficult problems of the future. Never stop hoping. Because hope is what people have to cope with difficult situations. As soon as your problem is over, you'll be much stronger. Believe me. After years, you'll thank God for every moment you've lived because you can gain much of each situation you're into. Just be positive sweetheart. Don't give up. Don't give in. And always remember there are people in a much worse condition than you (poverty, war, death etc) who however never complain about their life. They're fighters who fight for their life, for their rights, for a better future...

@zOe : U are a real therapist :lol: :yes: ,like ur advices !!! :hug: :beijo: :flowers:

:iagree: :lol:


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ok,, I have a problem too ? :P

I have a cousin,, 16 years old girl,, we used to be even more than sisters,, 4 years ago they moved to another city so I don't see her like b4,, we only see each other on the weekend,, but we chat on msn,, & we sleep at my grandma's house sometimes and I sleep there or she sleep here,, everything is good, but I don't know why I think that once she's with her other cousins,, I think she totaly forget about me & like I'm not in the same room!, that day on her brother's wedding "3 days ago" at the saloon we were laughing & talking then when her cousin came she forgot that I'm here & once her cousin went I told her that if she wanted to talk with her cousin alone she could get up and find another place to talk, but not acting like I'm not here,, she said that her cousin asked and she answered & that I must be drunk! <_< I told her that it's not the first time she do this & to forget about it, then I went to do my make up

at the wedding *we have it women only and men only, then men comes with the bride(her family) and the groom(his family) they dance a little then they go* ,,when the groom "my cousin" came with his ppl,, I danced with my cousin "the girl" and my 14 years brother and my 14 years old cousin "her brother" we were like a circle of 3 till her 16 years old cousin "boy" danced with us! I went away *cus he's not my family, it's her family* "we dance with family only" , she went with me *I told her to do by the eyes :P * but instead of dancing with me she went to dance with my uncle!! ugrrr I danced with my uncle too,, that is her uncle & she took him with her! offfhh ,,

the problem is ,, I think I started to hate my cousin!! :/ because of what she do,,

^I totally know how you feel, im kinda going through the same.
My cousin and i have been close for awhile and everything was fine, till about october last year, she started talkn to our other cousin which is not a problem i didnt care but the thing was she was starting not to answer my sms saying she didnt get them, i was like ok maybe she didnt get them but deep down i knew she got them coz i sent like 10. the fight began christmas day my cousins were invited to my sisters house's last year and my other cousin (girl and same age as my cuz i was talking to) ignored me everytime i spoke to her she would walk away or act like i wasnt there, then as soon as my other cousin arrived she basically ran to her and was talking and going to places without tellin ppl.
i was like fine but atleast act like i exsist.
my sisters live next door to each other but we were only in one house all the family, so my cousins went into the house that was not being used and i was with my younger cousin nikki showing her photos on the computer and the three of them (other cousin he's a twin) came in and basically telling me and nikki to go saying they wanted to talk and they werent saying a word till we left. i said ok i'll go but afterall this is my sisters house so i can come in anytime and the one i always used to talk to goes 'whatta a fag' and i heard it and so did nikki and i got mad i said i have had enough so i told my older sis and she went and said to them to stop and they should have helped cleaning not leaving it to my sis and the other twin (which later gags up on my family :( ) they said wateva they were acting like top shit and all and then my other sister was walking into the house and she heard the 4 saying my family are a pack of bitches ungratful bla bla bla bla and all that so then i fliped it and told my cousin that week to act like she does not know me when we see each other later that week at a wedding and ever since then she has ignored me been trying to rub it into my face about how she is BFFL with my cousins also nikki doesnt talk to me and took there side and they have reduced me to tears to many times they have made me feel so unhappy and weak inside coz i used to have a bond with them and now nothing even there mothers are starting to bitch :hit:.

my mum said to forget about them and move on but it sounds easy when u say it but the inside of u is feeling betrayed and destroyed.
its not easy but one of my sisters friend Irena said to my sis to tell me not to be so close to my cousins because they can just turn on u 4 no reason and i listernd but i didnt know they would hurt me like they did they dont even treat ne like family and blocked me from msn and my nonna/grandma tells my mum that they go out alot actually they went out tonight and it shits me because everytime i wanted to do something my cousins words were 'i have a life kata i'll tell when im not busy'
i don't know what to do to get ridd of the pain :bearcry: :hit:
P.S. There the ones ungratful i have kept secrets 4 them and my family has treated them like gold, what a wast of time i know now.

Okay, your story is a bit complicated. Let me understand few things.
You have a female cousin and you love her as if she was your sister. You spent much time together but then she moved to another place and you see her rarely. When you're alone with her everything is okay. But when there are some other cousins of her with you, she talks with them and ignores you. Right until here?

First of all, does she ignore you after she moved or she used to do that before too? And she does it only with her cousins or with whoever? I mean, if you meet a stranger in the street and start chatting with them, will she ignore you again?
I don't have any idea why she does this. You said, you've already talked to her. Have you ever thought that you might overreact? That everything is in your head and nothing of what you think is true? Maybe it's only your idea. But if not, then whether you can talk to her, seriously this time, and make her understand how you feel or move on with your life. Ignore her too. Don't waste your time by being sad about it.
And don't hate her no matter what she says. Hate is something bad, a sick, unhealthy feeling. Try not to feel it

EDIT:
@Kata, I just read your post. Sweetheart... :bearcry: I feel so sorry for you. You don't deserve to know people like them. But things like that happens everyday to many people. My dad doesn't talk to his sister anymore because of some things that had happened. I find that terrible, not talking to your relatives. But if it's the best for you, then cut the connection. Avoid them. Just like I said to Ghadeer "Don't waste your time by being sad about it". It will take time, it's not easy. Life isn't a bed of roses (like Letizia's father says lol). Be patient

Thankyou so much Zoe you have been the only one that understands, it will take time i know but at the moment time is something very boring.
if i was standing right next to zoe i wold give u the biggest hug ever :hug: :hug: :flowers: :latente: thanks sweety love ya :hug: .
memba im here for u always and anyone else in this forum ur all so wonderful :latente:

aww thats so sweet...

I know what you mean Kata...it really hurts when your family betrays you like that....but seriously Zoe is right...you shouldn't give a crap about them if they dont care about you....i know that sounds very plain and blunt but thats the only way to deal with it...i'll give you an example, see in Pakistan having a son is a must....and well, my mum has 6 daughters and so people always used to talk behind our backs about how we had no brothers...even our own relatives
i used to feel so angry and so hurt when my own relatives used to say that...and what was more sad was that my parents still treated them nicely....but then after a little while i realized...I was like "why am i rotting away my brains over nothing?"
because honestly they were the one's talking about us and that proved that they were brainless pieces of crap who needed to get lives...so its them who are the losers not you...i know it sounds blunt but i hope you understand that you shouldnt waste your time over pople who aren't worth it

@Zoe: no my dad only goes for like 3 weeks or something once in a year :lol: but i still dont miss him

@Ghadeer: well you shouldnt worry about your cousin because you seem like a girl who's got her priorities right...i know how Muslim society works consedering i am a Muslim...i know how girls shouldnt mingle to much with guys etc etc..so if your cousins being a prat then who cares? forget about her and move on with your life.You'll find better friends who care about you more...

Awe sweetheart! Thanks. :blush: I would hug you tightly if I had you here with me. You're so sweet. :hug: I'm here for you anytime. And for everyone too.

@:Zar yea u are right and it does hurt when they talk bout u behind ur back but what i realized family are most likely to betray us, u weren't blunt u are straight to the point B) but after Zoe and ur words just then i feel very confident anf much more better about it, i even deleted them from my sisters myspace so basically all contact would be cut of.

@:Zoe u are to sweet i hope this never happens to you.


Thankyou girls love u all heaps :hug: :hug:

@Zar: I have friends who care about me! :P ,, even the ones whom went to another high school,, we still talk on the phone and msn and sometimes we go out "rarely ^_^' cus we don't have time"

but I'm half saudi, half kuwait,, so.. in Kuwait I only have her & my 15 years old cousin,, "that in my age"
and that's why I care,, I only have her in my age! the others are so damn young,

@ Zoe: I don't hate her by the meaning,, I just feel that I'll start to dislike her... she doesn't ignore me with staingers,, only with her family,,
and not b4,, no,,


EDIT: Ithere was somethings,, I deleted them :P

Hm, interesting topic...
i'd try to help but the fact is i suck with advice :(
but i'm good at listening =D
lol.

anyway,, thnx all,, I think Zoe maybe you are right,, maybe I think it only and it's not right,, & I think it cus she didn't do what I told her to do,, and her other cousins see it ok while I don't,,

maybe that's why :)

awww great topic!!! :beers:
After reading all,I got some conclusions :rolleyes: :
-Kata had a big idea to open this topic :flowers:
-Teens in the world are all the same,get so many zits in life
-Zoe is a great therapist - who gives out all the best advices ;) :hug:

ok,, now I have a problem.. ? (of a friend) some eating problem,

in my DP (for msn), there was a pic (my weight), I put it cus a friend from school was surprised that I said I weigh 60! :/ she said I'm less than 60 = she thought I'm lying!??

(that day)
I told my friend :"hey, look >>>" (it was 57.3kg)
she : "what's the pic for?"
me: "my weight, that u didn't believe"
she: "u fatty!"

(I asked a girl I know her from msn) if 57 is fat, she said it's not, but she asked me something, I was like "huh!?!" she asked: have u ever throw up ...? the food u eat, purging? after lunch u go and make urself throw up?" ,, I told her that I've never done it, and I'm not fat to do it, she said that she's not fat either , but she do it sometimes :S, I told her that then her health will be bad, she said that she know... but she just dont want to eat sometimes but her father makes her eat,now! I've tried to write all I could, just to make her stop thinking like this, I even did some maths thing (BMI) to see if she should lose weight or not, the answer was she should eat cus her weight isn't healthy, she got "19"! she should be between "21-25" , when I told her that she should eat , she wrote: "yeah, sure :P" ,, well, I'm not the one who say this! the WHO says that for the age 16 she's under the healthy weight :/

I'm the one who should do that, and I don't do it! cus I care about my health more! my answer was 23 ,, 23 is good for between "21-25" !? but not 19! :/ I've learnt it from some school programme, but I found it on wikipedia >> http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_mass_index

:/ tell me,, what should I tell her? she wants anemia and yellow face?! :/

She wants anemia?? Does she know what anemia is??? Anemic people are VERY sick and they must take new blood every month and that is painful not only physically but mentally and there's a possibility that they cannot find the right blood and if they stay with no blood transmission they might die!!

I think your friend actually suffers from anorexia nervosa. That's when you think you're fat and all you want is to loose weight. So after eating you have different ways to loose the weight. For example throwing up is the most famous, or exercising in an extreme extent etc. That's not healthy at all. Many people die because of this. Especially teenage girls.
You can't do much to make her understand because she won't want to see she's "sick". If you think it's so serious, talk to her parents and they should make her see a psychologist.
My best friend used to have food disorder some years ago and she was facing some health problems. Well, anorexic and bulimic people don't understand when you're saying this to them, they think we want their bad or sth and they can get angry.
That's serious so you have to talk to her parents and then they should ask for help from qualified people.

PS. Her Body mass is 19, that means it's normal but not the best to have. The normal is between 18.5 and 25. But of course having 18.5 or 19 doesn't make you feel sure you'll stay healthy

actually i'm anemaic but i'm not a severe case....i just needed to take iron tablets for 3 months....but still...who wants to be aneamic???

truth is i'm 17 and i weigh 50kg....and i wanted to throw up once but i couldnt throw up no matter how many times i stuck my finger down my throat and it felt disgusting....